“I am tired, not of arguing in favour of equality, diversity and tolerance, but of having to explain, over and over and over again, why such arguments are still necessary, only to have my evidence casually dismissed by someone too oblivious to realise that their dismissal of the problem is itself a textbook example of the f*cking problem.
I am tired of being mocked by hypocrites who think that a single lazy counterexample is sufficient to debunk the fifteen detailed examples they demanded I produce before they’d even accept my point as a hypothetical, let alone valid, argument.
I am tired of a**holes who think that playing Devil’s advocate about an issue alien to their experience but of deep personal significance to their interlocutor makes them both intellectually superior and more rationally objective on the specious basis that being dispassionate is the same as being right (because if they can stay calm while savagely kicking your open wound, then clearly, you have no excuse for screaming).
There is a space that can grow between two people. An invisible barrier. You wonder if he still loves you. He asks if you’d ever leave him. You touch his cheek and say “of course not,” you mean it, but wonder. The distance is intangible. But its there. Tugging at your skin. Fraying your heart….
Tom Daley has informed the world he is dating a man and it is fantastic news that he is comfortable and happy enough to inform the world but am i the only one who, even though I’m always delighted for the people in these sorts of stories, just feels sad that we live in a…
I was at a club once and a young, attractive man came and asked to dance with me. He was the ONLY man who actually ASKED if I wanted to dance before rubbing himself all over me. He was attractive, as I said, so I danced with him. I am very mesmerizing when I…
“I said this a long time ago, and I’m saying it again – not only is rape about a rapist having control, but victim blaming is about controlling the female population: what better way to cajole women into standards of purity, decency, “learning how to behave” and sobriety than dangle the threat of “Well, if you don’t, you’ll surely invite rape upon yourselves?” What better way to get “these hoes” and “these broads” to understand that they don’t “know how to behave” than to help drive home the point that rape happens because women do bad things? Better yet, bad things happen to women who aren’t perfect, or at least striving to be. And who defines that “perfect?” Certainly not women.”—